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Pick-Up Lines: The Five Golden Rules By Jimmy Nickel
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Table of Contents Introduction
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Rule # 1
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Don t think “pick-up” lines, think Conversational Bait !
Rule # 2
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If it works on a guy, it works on a woman Rule # 3
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Make it situational and relevant to your environment Rule # 4
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Deliver it in a “no big deal” kind of way Rule # 5
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Make it funny without trying too hard Ignoring the Five Golden Rules
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Breaking Rule # 1
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Breaking Rule # 2 Breaking Rule # 3
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Breaking Rule # 4
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Breaking Rule # 5
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The Five Golden Rules Test
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The Five Golden Rules Test: Answers
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The Five Golden Rules Big Picture
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Smoothbuilder Exercise
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Introduction She has to quickly decide if she wants to continue in the interaction or get out – saying something like, “Thanks…well, I have to get back to my friends…” or “Thanks…I wish my BOYFRIEND was as nice as you…” or “Thanks, you’re nice…but I’m not looking to meet anyone right now. No, I won’t
Ivanka Trump, the gorgeous and brainy daughter of the famous real estate mogul, once said, “If you have to use a pick-up line, you’re probably not going to get laid…it’s that simple.” Well, what she probably meant was that using a pre-memorized and canned pick-up line will show a woman very quickly about what kind of guy you are.
give you number, give me yours so I can keep you my waiting whilebut I never EVER call…” Yes, this last response from a woman is rarely verbalized, but happens all the time (but you already knew that).
Using a tired, pre-packaged line will communicate to a woman that you are unsrcinal, uncreative, and insecure (because you have resorted to a cheap line – versus just confidently walking over and talking).
Another huge strike against guys who use bad lines occurs because of how women rank the quality of the meeting.
So, you probably shouldn’t walk up to a woman and say, “Hi, are those Space Pants? Because your ass is out of this world!”
That is to say, if a woman meets a guy in an unforced manner or “safe” setting, she ranks the interaction higher than others.
Yes, some women might laugh at a line like that, but you’ll mess up your chances with any girl who was just hit on by ten cheesy/unsrcinal/lame guys right before you.
For example, if a woman meetsshe youwill at typically a party (through a friend-of-a-friend), trust you more quickly than if you just met her at a noisy, crowded bar on a Saturday night.
You should also avoid the classic advice women give to men when they say, “If you like a woman, just walk over, give her a nice compliment, and introduce yourself…”
“But, that’s where all the hottest women are at! They’re at bars and clubs. I hardly ever meet women through friends and if I do, they’re all ugly!” you might complain. Well, lucky for you, there IS a way to talk to new women in any setting, avoid negative social pressure, and quickly establish trust.
Can this one work in real life? Sure, if the girl was already interested in you to begin with.
Just think about, remember, and USE the following Five Golden rules…
That is, if a woman already likes your looks and is flirting with you from across the room, you can say just about anything, and she’ll most likely be responsive in conversation. But, what happens in reality? Well, most women need a little bit of time to feel real attraction for a guy. So, by immediately flirting and showing interest before she knows you, you’ve just created negative social pressure.
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Rule # 1 Don t think “pick-up” lines, think Conversational Bait "
The phrase “pick-up line” by itself carries a
Conversational Bait contains NO compliments, NO
negative just read).connotation (the reasons for which you
signs of attraction, and NO neediness with looking for a response or reaction.
This phrase implies that the first few words you utter to a woman are spoken strictly to help you in your secret mission to get laid.
Example A:
No, you are not just talking to her because you’re attracted and you want to get to know her better. You’re not just talking to her because you’re a good guy looking for a good girl with whom to have a real relationship. No, you’re not just being social.
I’ve been groped at like five times just walking back from the men’s room. Think I should file a police report?
No, you are a conniving, lustful, sex-crazed
Her: Good.
maniac who ishe outsees! to mount and conquer any and every woman
You: Mine’s okay too, but I’m sick of all these girls trying buy me drinks and get my number.
You: Wow, I can’t believe how many people are squeezed in the bar!
Example B:
You: How’s your night going?
Oh, you’re NOT just trying to get laid and then move on to your next victim?
Then, I feel obligated to talk to them when I’m really not that into ‘em in the first place.
Well, that’s not what most women think when you’re talking to them in a crowded bar at 1 A.M. Seriously, ask any woman what she thinks about using pick-up lines and the response will be overwhelmingly negative.
Know what I mean?? Read This:
The examples in this guide are not intended to be re-used verbatim. They are meant to clarify the rules and give you some basic ideas from which to work. The goal here is for you to be able to come up with your own srcinal, spontaneous
So, to avoid your opening comments from ever being confused with the standard definition of a “pick-up line” use Conversational Bait.
opening lines.
What makes something qualify as Conversational Bait is that it is a quick comment or question thrown out there – one that will hopefully elicit a good response.
Remember, the ones you think up and use in the moment will be the most powerful ones of all!
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Rule # 2 If it works on a guy, it works on a woman The truth is, in any social setting where singles
So, if you have the skill and social savvy to start
regularlymight meet, anything say to a woman be almost construed as a pickyou up line.
up asame conversation with a random guy, you can do the with women.
I can recall one instance in a crowded bar where I mentioned to a woman that she had some toilet paper stuck to her shoe.
Just sideline your bad tendencies to compliment her, don’t ask leading questions about her dating status, and don’t flirt before getting to know her a bit.
She rolled her eyes at me and promptly replied, “Nice. Is that the best line you can come up with?!”
Again, these are all things that you would NEVER do with a male stranger. So, don’t do them when talking to a new woman at first.
Now, I wasn’t even interested in the woman on a romantic level; I was just being polite.
Flirting, complimenting, and being playful in a fun and challenging way come AFTER you’ve engaged her in some kind of rapport.
Still, I responded with, “Yeah, it is…and it took me years to come up with that one. How did I do??” I then pointed to her shoe where she quickly realized I was telling the truth. In her embarrassment, she apologized, we talked a bit, and I was soon after introduced to her group of female friends.
It could only take a minute to establish rapport, but once you do, she’s that much closer to letting her guard down and giving you a real chance.
Always keep in mind that in any kind of bar, club, restaurant, party, or similar, women are naturally suspicious of anything you say.
Example:
You: Hey, is it just me, or are there a lot of dudes here wearing WAY too much cologne?
Of course, if you start a conversation with a guy in those types of settings, there is no suspicion.
I just passed this guy a minute ago and he was wearing so much Polo Sport, my eyes started to water…
There no suspicion becausedude, whenyou’re you start chattingis with some random not worried about the guy’s reaction to you, you’re not looking to get somewhere, and you’re not flirting (hopefully).
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Rule # 3 Make it situational and relevant to your environment Despite the fact that a Google search for the
More importantly, you’re just talking at first
phrase you “pick-up will Internet return to millions of results, don’t lines” need the think up the best opener.
(versus mistake guys make of showing too muchthe interest, toomost soon). So, don’t be lazy! This third rule is something you can practice right away.
In fact, most often, the best fodder for your opening words is all around you.
You can easily walk into any new environment and ask yourself, “What’s interesting about this place? What is something unique that I could point out or talk about?”
All you have to do is be observant and notice little things that she can relate to as well. This might sound difficult, but that’s only because you’re never done it before. You’ve never trained yourself to look and listen to what’s happening around you. Once you do that, you’ll have all kinds of grist for the chat mill. For example, if you’re out in a bar or club, be mindful of the music, the bartenders and staff, interesting aspects of décor, unique people in the crowd, any noteworthy goings-on, or anything else that would pique your interest if someone told it to you.
Once you learn to keep your eyes and ears open, you’ll always have a good supply of items to discuss. And, when that magic day comes where an attractive woman crosses your path, you’ll be ready.
Then, all you have to do is point it out in a way that follows some or all of the rules here in the guide.
You’l l be ready to start a simple, casual conversation and then take things further once her guard comes down.
Remember, with any approach to a woman, you should strive to be the one guy who is different. You want to be the one guy who doesn’t use a
Example:
You: Wow, I just got back from the bathroom and
cheesy line to that bore trying hitreveals on a hotyou girl.as just another lame
it’s a real scene over there. Be careful if you gotta go.
Yes, women are smart enough to know that if you’re talking to them at all, it is some kind of sign of interest.
Her: What do you mean? You: The girls’ bathroom is locked and people are pounding on the door. I think someone’s having a baby in there…or maybe making one.
Still, by focusing on your environment and using common experiences to get a conversation started, you are being srcinal and authentic.
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Rule # 4 Deliver it in a “no big deal” kind of way If you have ever been to Best Buy, you’re quite
This time, he doesn’t even look at you browsing
familiar with the phrase,by “Hi,some can I perky, help you find something?” delivered blueshirted employee who walked straight up to you moments after you walked in.
GPSa units but he walks over to stock some items on rack next to where you are standing. While you’re handling one display unit, he calmly says, “That one’s cool, but I wouldn’t get it.”
Now, even if that person could have helped you a lot, you might have instinctively responded with, “No thanks. I’m just looking...”
As he continues to stock the shelf, you ask him why and he mentions that most customers prefer a different unit which also happens to be cheaper.
What made you dismiss that friendly helper was negative social pressure (mentioned in the introduction). Yes, you came to look at the latest, greatest Garmin GPS – with hi-res display, Bluetooth connectivity, and free lifetime traffic updates.
After that, you start asking him all kinds of questions and you end up buying a different model based on his recommendations.
The lesson here? Finding a way to “accidentally” run into a woman takes the pressure off of the first meeting or conversation.
Still, you sent him away because you wanted to find that GPS but also look at all the other ones too (just in case). You wanted to take your time to figure out what you really want and not be put on the spot to make a decision. Your experience with that Best Buy employee was very similar to what attractive women experience in any place where they are approached by men (which is pretty much everywhere).
Anytime you can sidle up to a prospective woman - casually chatting with her while NOT pointing your chest directly at her – you’ll reduce negative social pressure (i.e., you must turn your head to her when talking at first).
A woman might even be single-and-looking, but when she is approached by a guy in a manner that is overly direct, she may resist.
Of course, once she orients her body toward you, then you can turn to her directly.
The guy who makes a very direct approach may even be a great catch who is perfect for her, but she’ll still tense up and resist just as a reflex.
Is this being a bit sneaky? Who knows. Is it the best way to talk to women who have been conditioned to brush off men who approach too directly or aggressively? Absolutely.
So, what would happen if you walked into the same Best Buy store, but things happened a bit differently? Okay, just imagine you’re back in Best Buy, but this time, the same employee does NOT approach you.
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Rule # 5 Make it funny without trying too hard
Of course, your opening words must never seem to be “trying too hard” or you’ll immediately communicate insecurity and/or desperation.
Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you are well aware that ever. today’s single women value humor more than
Theone attraction-obliterating “trying too at hard” is that sinks most guys right the vibe very beginning of any encounter with a new woman.
One reason for this is that as today’s modern women strive to “have it all,” so too does their stress level and their corresponding need for good old-fashioned fun.
The “trying too hard” vibe can easily be avoided by never expecting or expressing any reaction to a woman after you’ve uttered your first words to her.
So, if you are just talking to a woman for the first time, always remember that fun and playful trumps boring and serious every time. This applies especially to attractive women - who most likely endure a daily onslaught of unsrcinal guys and their failed attempts at charm on a daily
If she laughs a lot at something you said, you laugh a little. If she only smiles, you smile a little
basis. Yes, you’ve probably seen this type of behavior in your own workplace – the guy who struts over to an attractive co-worker’s desk or cube and hangs outs just a little too long.
too. If she gives no reaction or ignores you, you just hang out for 30 seconds of awkwardness, lower your head in shame, and then slink away like the loser you are. Wait…NO, you don’t do that!
No, he’s not sexually harassing her, just camping out - straining to come off as funny, charming, or cool (and failing miserably).
Remember, if a woman has no sense of humor or is too rude to give you the time of day, IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT!
The lesson here? Don’t be that guy, ever.
Whatever her reasons are for not engaging in polite social behavior have nothing to do with who you are as a guy.
Rather, be the guy who throws out a few words, gets her to banter back, and builds on her comments to create a fun, playful conversational tone.
If any smile woman you, “Okay keep your relax, andignores simply say, then!”head up,
Remember, if you can help her escape her troubles even for a little bit, you’re a step ahead of most guys.
Then walk away, don’t look back, and only focus on the other women you’d like to meet and how you’re going to do it.
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Ignoring the Five Golden Rules
Breaking Rule # 1 Don’t think “pick-
The point of this guide is simply to help you get your foot in the door with a new woman. That’s all.
up” lines, think
Conversational Bait
Guys who break this rule usually encounter the following from women:
This may not seem like a big deal, but the sad truth is that many guys fail with women even at this level. Many guys violate some or all of these rules and suffer swift and irreversible negative consequences. The good part for you is that you now have something that most single guys out there don’t have (and may never have).
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An immediate look of annoyance followed by a brush-off
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Being completely ignored altogether
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An immediate response of “Nice line…” followed by a total loss of interest by the woman and her friends
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An awkward interaction where the woman is
You have the understanding of a better way to handle things in the beginning.
momentarily polite but quickly finds a reason to exit in the absence of rapport and real conversation
You have awareness. But, will you remember it? Will you use it the next time you are around women or will all this stuff you just learned go out the window?
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Well, the answer to those questions depends on how badly you want to do better with women – specifically the kind of women that you really want to be with.
An im me di at e bl ow -o ff fo ll ow ed by th e immediate classification of the guy as lame, cheesy, or weird amongst the woman’s social group
Your “foot in the door” sticks once you calmly and casually get her talking.
So, to drive these rules home, let’s take a look at what happens to most guys when they violate the Five Golden Rules…
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Breaking Rule # 2
Breaking Rule # 3
Remember, if it works on a guy, it works on a woman
Make it situational and relevant to your environment
Guys who break this rule usually encounter the following from women:
Guys who break this rule usually encounter the following from women:
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In a group of women, other women disrupt his interaction with one woman after he has just complimented her openly
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Strained conversation over topics that bore the woman (if his opener deals with something that has nothing to do with anything around him)
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The woman becomes uncomfortable after his too-direct, complimentary opener, thinking he does this with all women
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An immediate blow-off when the woman has no idea what the guy is talking about but knows what he is trying to do
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The woman reacts to negative social pressure with a closed-off attitude – much the same way you’d turn away a pushy salesman (even if you were looking to buy at first)
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The woman will perceive the man as “reaching for straws” (translation: unsrcinal, boring, and desperate)
Would you walk up to guy you don’t know and tell him how great he looks in his tight jeans? Would you tell some random dude how he is the only good-looking person in the whole bar?
Many first conversations between two people (male or female) start with the search for commonalities. So, what do many people first talk about with strangers?
Would you get all smiley, giddy, and nervous around a guy you just met? Hopefully the answer is NO, NO, NO on all accounts.
That’s right…they talk about the weather because it’s something they can both relate to. This is not to say that you should approach women and start talking about the weather, but then again, why the hell not? Joking about how hot, cold, rainy, or windy it is outside is still better than what most guys talk about with new people.
The reason you wouldn’t make romantic passes at strange guys (besides the potential for getting a punch in the mouth, or worse, reciprocation) is because it is unnatural and generally uncomfortable for the stranger. Now, for the most attractive women, this type of fast come-on opener will only have you lumped in and dismissed along with scores of other guys who have just done the same.
Most guys waste time trying to find out what the other person does for a living, where they grew up, and what they do for fun (generally all boring subjects which will only emphasize your two disparate lives if none of your responses match up). Conversely, if you discuss a person, place, thing, or occurrence that you KNOW is common to the both of you, rapport can be built quickly.
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Breaking Rule # 4
Breaking Rule # 5
Deliver it in a “no big deal” kind of way
Make it funny without trying too hard
Guys who break this rule usually encounter the following from women:
Guys who break this rule usually encounter the following from women:
• The woman turns her back on the guy
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If the guy is too goofy or self-deprecating at first, he may perceived as insecure and desperate by thebewoman
• The woman walks away after the guy gets too close, too soon •
• The woman immediately looks uncomfortable when the guy walks straight up to her and faces her (translation: his agenda is clearly exposed)
If the guy comes across as humorless, he will immediately be rejected by the woman who values a sense of humor in a guy (which is pretty much ALL women everywhere!)
What do a telemarketer, a demanding boss, or a door-to-door salesman all have in common?
When it comes to the trying too hard part, guys who are guilty of this sin are easy to spot.
Simple. They all inspire discomfort when they approach you. They all put you in the unenviable position of having to respond to some kind of request for your time, energy, or money.
These kinds of guys usually laugh hard at their own bad lines – thinking that this somehow makes them funnier. They consistently followon their jokes with hopeful gaze focused theown listeners’ face a– waiting for some sign of approval in the awkward moments after they release their words.
anytime you can make an indirect and subtle approach, you have a
better chance of interacting with a woman in a way that does not put her on the defense.
The good part is that you can avoid looking like you’re trying too hard today if you NEVER, EVER look for or worry about peoples’ reactions to your words. If one of your jokes is greeted with dead silence, so what?
Yes, if the woman already likes your appearance, a direct, walk-right-up-to-her approach would work. But why risk it?
If you crack a joke and no one laughs but you remember to ALWAYS LAUGH SECOND, then
Attractive women are constantly approached by men and by approaching indirectly you set yourself up for a more relaxed introduction.
you didn’t make a joke, right? It was just a random comment you made. No big deal. Get it?
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The Five Golden Rules Test Now, let’s see if you truly understand everything you’ve just learned. Remember, everything in this guide is useless UNLESS you are willing to apply it! The key here is practice, practice, and more practice. The best part is that you can start practicing today with the Smoothbuilding Exercise (coming later). So, here are a few made-up settings where you might meet women and some possible opening comments or “pick-up lines.” Read them, and think to yourself if they would possibly work based on the Five Golden Rules.
The setting is a Starbucks C offee shop where an attractive woman is sitting and working on her pink notebook computer. You walk to a condiments counter near her, turn your head to her and say the following… Line A:
“Wow, this is like my third cup today. This stuff is like crack Hey, are you online? Can you look up treatment centers for caffeine addicts or should I just wait for a family intervention?” Line B:
“Hi. Nice laptop. Come to think of it, everything else is nice too.” Line C:
“How’s the internet connection here? I was just wondering because I heard some girl on a pink laptop crashed the whole network last week. Yeah, she caused like a million dollars in damage…”
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malemetrics.com The setting is a moderately crowded bar where an attractive, young woman is standing around with two other female friends. A Lady Gaga song blares over the sound system and the woman starts to dance a bit. You turn your head and say to the woman… Line A:
“Hey, didoutfit you see thatit music awards where Gaga wore that suit made entirely out of meat? Did you like that or did just make youshow hungry?” Line B:
“Are you Lady Gaga’s choreographer? I mean, she can dance but she’s got nothing on your sexy moves…” Line C:
“How it this nut job still famous? I can’t believe anyone still listens to this crap.”
The setting is a nightclub where you are at the bar getting a drink near an attractive woman (who is also near the bar). Line A:
“I see someone needs a refill on their raspberry Cosmo with a twist. Looks like this is your lucky night…” Line B:
“Don’t you just hate these crowded clubs? You work all week just so you can blow your money on drinks you can’t pronounce from a bartender who acts like you don’t even exist…” Line C:
“Do girls actually go for that? I’m sure he’s a nice guy but I bet it takes him like ten hours to get through airport security…”
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The Five Golden Rules Test: Answers Let’s see how well you did at picking out the best openers from the examples. Once again, these are only examples of possible lines and they’re not meant to be memorized and re-used verbatim. So, did you pick the best one according to the Five Golden Rules? Let’s see…
Coffee Shop Example Line A:
“Wow, this is like my third cup today. This stuff is like crack. Hey, are you online? Can you look up treatment centers for caffeine addicts or should I just wait for a family intervention?” This line is situational, has humor, and is non-flirty (can be used on a guy) but is too direct and tries a little too hard. Line B:
“Hi. Nice laptop. Come to think of it, everything else is nice too.” This line has no humor, is too flirty for an opener with a woman who knows nothing about you. Plus, it doesn’t engage her in any way. Line C: BEST OPENER!
“How’s the internet connection here? I was just wondering because I heard some girl on a pink laptop crashed the whole network last week. Yeah, she caused like a million dollars in damage…” If you guessed this line, you have been paying attention. This line works with most of the Five Golden Rules and gives her a chance to engage you back. That is, your innocent question is followed up with a funny accusation that gives her the opportunity to banter back if she is game for it. If she does banter back, run with it in a playful manner and then segue into casual chatting and you’re off to the races…
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Bar Example Line A: BEST OPENER!
“Hey, did you see that music awards show where Gaga wore that suit made entirely out of meat? Did you like that outfit or did it just make you hungry?” This line may seem risky, but when delivered with a slight smile and playful tone, is passes the humor test. Plus, it’s situational and works great as conversational bait since any group of young women would most likely have a strong opinion on such a controversial celebrity. Of course, this type of approach MUST be adjusted for each setting and group type. Remember, your goal is to get the women engaged in a fun, playful conversation. If you can get a woman (or women) talking right away, you’re ahead of most guys. You just have to remember to look, listen, and learn from your surroundings to have the best interaction with your intended audience. Do this regularly, and you can smoothly insinuate yourself in any group, anywhere. Line B:
“Are you Lady Gaga’s choreographer? I mean, she can dance but she’s got nothing on your sexy moves…” This opener tries too hard by starting out with a compliment. Also, it’s not funny and represents the same failed attempt at being clever that most average guys might use on an attractive woman. Line C:
“How it this nut job still famous? I can’t believe anyone still listens to this crap.” Making fun of a woman (or her tastes) in a fun and playful way is a basic tool for attraction building. However, making fun of a woman (or man even) in a negative, unfunny manner will kill your appeal instantly.
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Nightclub Example Line A:
“Looks like someone needs a refill on their raspberry Cosmo with a twist. Looks like this is your lucky day…” Of course, you would never use this opener on a guy, there is no humor, and there is zero Conversational Bait here. Line B:
“Don’t you just hate these crowded clubs? You work all week just so you can blow your money on drinks you can’t pronounce from a bartender who acts like you don’t even exist…” Complaining, whining, or negativity equals instant death to your appeal. Plus, this fails most of the Five Golden Rules. Line C: BEST OPENER!
“Do girls actually go for that? I’m sure he’s a nice guy but I bet it takes him like ten hours to get through airport security…” This last line complies with all Five Golden Rules. No, you should never utter serious and unfunny putdowns about guys who might be good-looking or dressed well. If you do that, you will only quickly broadcast jealousy and insecurity – especially when you’re with a woman to whom you are attracted. Still, by wisecracking about little things you both see and giving her a chance to play along, you are offering her an easy entrance into some kind of lively social interaction. Once you have her attention and she turns to face you, then you can do the same. Once you two are in a real conversation, the rest is up to you.
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The Five Golden Rules Big Picture The greater idea here is that you are doing the opposite of what most guys do around an attractive woman.
By now, you are probably aware of a few ideas that will help you have greater success with women in a profound and immediate way. First, using pick-up lines (as defined by the classic definition) is the worst way to attempt entry into a woman’s life.
You’re NOT prospecting, pressuring, or trying to impress. You’re being cool. You’re being different. You’re being your best you. Third, you are now aware of the fact that talking to women in the beginning requires no special trick lines, complicated moves, or innate talent. You have the know-how, now you just need practice.
Using a canned, insincere line is no fast and easy shortcut into the woman’s life or into her bed. Of course, if you follow the ideas in this guide, she’s already talking, already laughing, and already forgetting all about her fake boyfriend. Second, building rapport with an attractive woman is more about what you don’t say. “Wait, what’s that? Aren’t I only supposed to use perfect opening lines that follow all the Five Golden Rules?” you’re wondering. The answer to that question is no, not necessarily.
Honestly, a great opening line can even be something as simple as, “how’s it going?” delivered with a turned head, direct eye contact, and a slight smile. No, it’s not a funny line, but, when delivered with a relaxed, not-trying-too-hard vibe, it lacks cheesiness, it’s not confrontational or too direct, and is relevant to something for which you and the woman are both interested (her!).
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So, PLEASE don’t just read this guide then toss it aside! Think about these ideas. Use them and practice them until you do them automatically.
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Smoothbuilder Exercise Here is a simple exercise to make sure you master the ideas in this guide.
For the next week, anytime you are in a public situation, try to repeat the following routine as many times as you can: 1.
At first, conduct yourself like you are “in your own little world.” This means no initial eye contact, you have a purpose for being there (i.e., looking for or doing something), and you don’t care about anyone around you.
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Once someone is near you (either male or female), throw out some Conversational Bait about something around you. Try to follow the Five Golden Rules as much as possible.
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When that person responds, THEN make eye contact and chat back for no more than a minute. After a minute, politely exit while simply saying, “Well, gotta run. Take it easy…” (or similar)
If you can master this simple practice of starting low-pressure conversations with ANYONE, you can do it instinctively with a woman in almost any social setting. Of course, when you’re with a woman whom you’d like to date, you flirt a bit after some rapport has been established. Yes, this is just the start down the road to your goal of having a real, physical relationship with her, but it’s a damn good start.
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Pick-Up Lines: The Five Golden Rules
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Final Words Whether your goal is to date a variety of women or just find that one special partner, this one thing is certain:
Getting a woman’s attention and affection is NOT about being perfect. it’s about being good enough. This idea may seem simplistic, but it stands firmly in stark contrast to the notion that you need to be a Bad Boy, Jerk, or Pick-up Artist to date attractive women. The truth is, no matter what your age, income, or looks may be, there ARE aspects of you that are very attractive to women. The catch here is that those attractive aspects of you need to be developed and showcased.
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P.S. Did you know that if your buddies stink at approaching and talking to women, this can really hurt your chances as well?
Of course, if your friends know their stuff, you’ll have WAY better wingmen when you’re out there meeting groups of women. So, feel free to share this guide and help your buddies help YOU.
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