THE INITIAL ENCOUNTER Hey guys, let's get straight down to business!!
How To Meet Beautiful Women BY FRENCH AUTHOR PETER LATOURETTE
Gentlemen, welcome to the jungle. I am sure that you are well aware of the fierce competition that we routinely encounter in our daily lives. We have to compete for jobs, social status, and yes WOMEN. This is a fundamental reality that will not change anytime soon. The material in this guide has been designed to prov provid idee you you wit with h the the compe competi titi tive ve edg edgee you you need need to be successful in meeting, dating, and having meaningful relationships with beautiful women.
It is a scientifically proven fact that the brains of men and women are psychologically different. You must learn how to exploit these differences to your advantage. A ba sic knowledge knowledge of how the average woman thinks is the strongest weapon that you can have when trying to start a relationship. I am well aware that at first glance this sounds cold and calculating. However, after you start dating the woman that you desire, it will be at at this this poin pointt that that she she will will fall fall in love love with with you. you. Dating her will provide you the opportunity to showcase who you really are, a nice, hardworking, good guy. The simple fact is that before we try to build any type of relationship we must first get the lady to open up to us. The starting point might be her acceptance of a date with you. It can also be her speaking with you right on the spot. It is during this critical initial encounter that she will decide whether or not you are the man that she would like to build a relationship with. It is exactly at this point where you must be cold and calculating. She is sizing you up, and comparing you to her idea of the perfect man. Many men fail at this stage of the game because they simply do not realize that the woman they are trying to conquer is closely analyzing their behavior. One of the biggest mistakes made by guys is that they try to impress girls as if the girls were "one of the boys". Stay away from this type of behavior. behavior. I have had had hundred hundredss of men men ask ask me " why can't women be more like men?". Well, the simple answer is, that women are not men. You must always treat them like ladies. Their behavior behavior is differe different nt from from yours. yours. Their Their percepti perceptions ons,, priori priorities, ties, and actio actions ns are are also different. If you are to be successful in dating, it will be essential that you obtain a basic understanding understanding of this. Very few men realize that women love to be treated like ladies. If you are one of the few who do realize this important
concept, then you are armed with the most important tool needed to begin building a meaningful meaningful relationship. relationship. It is extremely important to take a close look at ourselves as men. It is equally important to understand why we are who we are. The more in touch you are with yourself, the more attractive you will become to the opposite sex. You're comfortable with yourself, thus, others will be comfortable with you. In general, women will be very happy with this type of man, because because they enjoy enjoy the the company company of someone someone who is sure of himself. So listen guys, be confident and let it show. Women worry a lot more than men do. They fret about such things as work, money, health and family. A sophisticated approach in appealing to a woman involves the subtle suggestion that you will be "good for her future". She needs to clearly understand that you are a person who can handle tough situations. You can be counted on to take care of things for her, and bring her happiness. Let her tell you what her concerns are. What bothers her? Explain to her how you dealt with similar situations, and offer her some intelligent, concrete suggestions. If she seems to be lacking lacking self self confid confidence ence tell her her how how capable capable she seems to you, and that based upon what you have seen in her, she will have no problem handling the situation. Many times during your initial encounter with women, this type of scenario will play itself out. She will evaluate your every response. She is testing you. She is asking herself "what kind of husband will this man be to me?", "what kind of father will he be to my kids?". Keep this in mind as she mentions her concerns. At times a woman will casually ask you a question in an off-hand manner that will give you the impression that she is not really concerned with your response. However, in reality she is weighing your words very carefully. Make sure that you provide her with sensible intelligent responses.
TAKING A CRITICAL LOOK AT YOURSELF We are arrogant. We do not like to think of our shortcomings and faults. I think that taking a good hard look at ourselves is an important task that we must be willing to face. This self-discovery is the key to our success in life in general, and with women in particular. Men need to channel their natural inborn aggression into productive pursuits . We must never be abusive towards women. Treat them like ladies, and you will be amazed at the positive responses that you will receive. Be strong, confident and kind. A man's life expectancy is nine years shorter than a woman's. The reason for this is that we are self destructive. It is not a genetic issue. We smoke more, drink more, use more drugs, and get into more accidents. These are not very attractive traits. You must ask yourself "what self-destructive things am I doing that are hurting my potential relationships?" Only you know the answer to that question, and only you can help yourself. You must first examine your own behavior. Otherwise, whatever tips I give you on how to pick pick up women women will will do do you you no goo good. d. Afte Afterr you you have looked in the mirror, we can start with a fresh perspective. Up to this point I have covered some general princi principals pals.. These These gener general al princ principa ipals ls will will be the the foundation for the specific points that I will be making from here on.
UNDERSTANDING RELATIONSHIPS Personal relationships are extremely important to women. It is their dream to meet a man who they will fall in love with. A woman enjoys her girlfriends company. However, what she really
longs for is a deep intimate relationship with a man. This is inborn. Every time a woman meets a man she is thinking of him in terms of "what kind of partner would he be?" If not for her then she will think of you as a potential boyfriend for one of her single girlfriends. Women love to find guys for their friends because they know firsthand the importance of quality male companionship in a woman's life. Keep this in mind when you are in the company of women. You can really find yourself being "set-up" with a really great girl. Always put your best foot forward, and never let your guard down. It is a fact that women end rela tionships tionships more more often than men do. They know and understand more about them than we do. We tend to fall in love quicker. We do not communicate between our brains and our hearts. A very important rule of thumb to remember is that you should always use your brain when it comes to the dating game. Do not go blindly into any one relationship. Always step back and evaluate the situation to make sure that you are in control. Men seem to find it hard to understand why a relationship has been broken apart, why it is not as good as it used to be. Romance is a big mystery to us. This is exactly why it is essential to take a good look at our past relationships, and learn from the mistakes that we have made. An example of the way that men demonstrate true friendship is by inviting someone that they like to be with, to a baseball, or football game. Women on the other hand show friendship and trust by sharing their secrets. Very few men will open up and share their secrets with a woman. A great way to set yourself apart from other men who you are in direct competition with) is to open up and tell her your secrets. If you do not share your secrets she will feel as if she is not part part of you yourr life. life. This This inner inner feelin feeling g in her will will disrupt any attempt that is to be made to create a truly intimate relationship. This is not something that you have to do right away, although you should show her that you are emotionally strong and secure enough to do it.
CONQUERING THE FEAR OF REJECTION Always be aware of the fact that women interpret sensory information much better than men do. We do not think it's important, as a result we usually fail to realize how significant this type of non-verbal communication is to women. The type of sensory s ensory information that are most easily read are facial expressions, and gestures. Try to always appear relaxed, and do not make erratic gestures. Nervousness is not a very attractive quality. However, you should be aware that it is a quality that is found in many men, and you can control it if you give it a conscious try. Men usually encounter nervousness when they are thinking of approaching a gorgeous girl. Ladies like men to be articulate, and fluent. You can be both of these and more. The secret is understanding the problem that causes you to be nervous. The problem for most men is fear of rejection. The key to conquering the fear of rejection is to realize that there is nothing wrong with being rejected. Rejection is an experience that all men go through sooner or later. The men who succeed in dating beautiful women are those that quickly move on to other women after experiencing rejection. Consider the following analogies as I attempt to prove prove the above above In Major League Baseball a hitter who has a very respectable batting average of .300 will not be successful successful 7 out out of 10 10 trips trips to the plate. plate. In the NBA not not every every shot shot a player player shoots shoots is is going going to go in the basket. A superstar quarterback is not going to complete every pass that he throws. The major point that I am trying to emphasize is that on the road to success you will always encounter rejection. Many men let a few rejections stop them from ever approaching a beautifu beautifull woman woman again. again. This This is a tragi tragicc mistake. mistake. Never Never let fear intimida intimidate te you. you. The The overall overall
success you will have will be well worth the few rejections you will inevitably encounter. Success with beautiful girls can be yours. You can have beautiful girls as companions and lovers. The first step is believing this reality. I stress again, rejections will occur, just move on to the next woman. Your future lover will be glad you did!!
WHAT WOMEN LOOK FOR Marrying someone for love is a relatively new phenom phenomeno enon. n. As you you have have no dou doubt bt heard heard in in a social studies course, marriages in the past were always arranged by families. These arrangements were made for practical financial considerations, and love had nothing to do with it. The environment was harsh, and the people people of of the past had no time to be romantic about such partnership partnerships. s. Well, today the same practical considerations exist. Women will judge you by the job that you currently hold. Your future earning potential will be closel closely y scrutin scrutinize ized d by any any possi possible ble fema female le partner partner that that you you encoun encounter. ter. I really really don't don't think think that it's a good idea to let yourself be tossed aside just because your career prospects are not so good at the moment. Why throw away a potent potential ially ly grea greatt relat relation ionshi ship p that that cou could ld poss possibl ibly y lead to marriage just because you currently don't have a good job. Whatever it is that you do, must always be put in the best light. If you're a security guard, then you are currently studying for the F.B.I. test. If you're a baseball player in some beer league, you are a hot major league prospect. If you're currently unemployed, then you are rejecting offers of $40,000 or less because you are tired of being being insulted. insulted. I am am exaggerat exaggerating ing of course. course. However, I'm sure that you get my point. Don't be too hard on women for being this way. We can be difficult as well. For example, if you met an ugly girl, and had. a one night stand with
her, you would not be bothered if she never called you again. You would not care because she wasn't very pretty to begin with. Now, is that nice? Of course it isn't. Bottom line, cruel world". You can learn a great deal by reading the personals personals in any any newspape newspaperr around around the count country. ry. Look at what men and women want. Men want young and pretty wives. Women want a man who is financially secure, or who has the potent potential ial of of achiev achieving ing financ financial ial secu securit rity. y. This This is is why you must demonstrate that you are capable of earning enough money to provide a more than comfortable lifestyle, for your future wife and kids.
There are other positive attributes that you need to convey to a woman. You must be kind and intelligent. Act with a certain level of sophistication, have an experienced air about you. You can project all these images by the way you speak to her. Be calm, confident, in control, and above all, always give her the impression that you have the utmost respect for her. A big secret is enthusiasm. Your job is to make her enthusiastic about you. You will not make her excited about yourself if you tell her that your greatest aim in life is to be a homeless quilt maker. As I stressed before, always put yourself in the best light.
SETTING YOURSELF APART FROM THE COMPETITI CO MPETITION ON It is the greatest thing in the world when our love is returned to us by a beautiful woman that we desire. This will happen for you if you keep these concepts in mind the next time you hit the dance floor or local singles club in your area. Think ATTRACTION. ATTRACTION. In the first stages of a relationship she will go through an idealization proces processs concer concernin ning g you. you. She She will will magn magnify ify all your good qualities in her mind. You will then be compared to her standard of absolute perfection
and excellence. It is critical during this part of the game to be as perfect as you can be, in an effort to win her heart. This does not mean that you turn into a jerk later on. It simply means that you must set yourself apart from the competition in order to establish the relationship with her in the first place. A potential relationship will go nowhere if it is not given the chance to get off the ground. It is very important to make sure that the image you project is as close to "actual reality" as possib possible. le. Otherw Otherwise ise,, she she will will be disapp disappoin ointed ted in the deception, and view her feelings for you as a temporary infatuation. You must use your common sense. I cannot overemphasize the importance of displaying your best side in the beginning. Success is very important to most women. You do not have to be a movie star. How many of us are? However, you must let all your good qualities shine through. Be caring. Show tenderness. Be fun to be with.
UNDERSTANDING WOMEN It is crucial to show a woman that you care about her accomplishments. Don't wait for her to tell you things about her career or about herself in general. Rather than waiting for her to tell you about these things, you should first ask her about these subjects, and provide advice. Your inquiries will indicate to her that you are genuinely interested in what goes on in her life, and that you are willing to provide support. Many men are just plain idiots in that they neglect everything their girlfriends do. This is an enormous mistake that eventually sends those women into the arms of another man. Do not fall into that trap. Be generous, and become a part of her life, like she's a part of yours. In doing this, it is critical to display a sense of loyalty in your character. Women are good
judges judges of of such such traits, traits, thus thus,, don't don't be a phon phony y about about it. These qualities provide a woman with evidence of a man's suitability for the role of father for her children. She will see you as a protector, provider, provider, and and as someone someone who who cares about about himself and those he loves. Whether she realizes it or not, these traits are critical in her sele ction ction of a man. It is often said that relationships need to be worked at. Well, understanding some basic concepts will make the task a lot easier. Let us begin begin by realizin realizing g that that we cannot cannot chang changee women, women, and they cannot change us. There must be a willingness to compromise. We need to be more tolerant of the differences between men and women that I spoke about earlier. Women will often say, and worry about things that men will consider unimportant or irrelevant. For example, she will say "I could die because of the ugly color of this dress," a man will then sarcastically respond "consider yourself lucky that you have something decent to wear, and by the way, you won't die because of the dress, but you will die if you have no food on your plate night after night like the kids in Somalia". She will see this as a vicious insult, whereas you see it as a simple truth. Avoid confrontations such as these. Don't insult her, as silly as you might think her concern over a simple item such as a dress might be. The better way to handle the situation would be to say "well honey, maybe you can go to the store tomorrow and pick out a new color". This type of compromise will make your fife much easier in relations with women. If you refuse to engage in such compromising then it's sure to follow that many needless arguments will arise that will ultimately destroy your relationship. Instead of fighting, work on building up the confidence of your woman. Compliment her on such
things as her beauty and the clothes that she wears. wea rs. Women spend spend thousands of dollars dollars on clothing and cosmetics. They spend all this money in an effort to look good for us, and to compete with other women. After spending all this time and money, there will be nothing more satisfying for a woman than to be complimented by the man she she admires. admires. Instea Instead d of fights fights and and arguments, men should spend more time trying to figure out ways to say, and do good things for their partners. All the time wasted arguing, and fighting, would be put to better use in the bedroom. bedroom. If If you you kee keep p in mind, mind, and and appl apply y everything that I have just mentioned in this paragra paragraph, ph, you you will will notice notice increase increased d warmth, warmth, and tenderness, in all your relationships.
IMPORTANCE OF THE INITIAL ENCOUNTER-GET ENCOU NTER-GETTING TING NOTICED Before I go on to the next section, I want to stress one last time the importance of the initial encounter. In referring to the "initial encounter", I am not only talking about the first time you meet her. I'm also referring to the first few weeks of the relationship. The attraction stage. You must do everything possible to enhance your physical appearance. There is no way around this. If your fat, get on a weight loss program. I would suggest bodybuilding as a way of achieving an attractive body. This activity will enhance your appearance, in addition to providing health benefits. benefits. The truth truth is that a clean clean-cut -cut,, healt healthy hy appearance on a man is very important to the vast majority of women. You will often hear people say that looks don't count) and it's personality that's the important thing. Gentlemen, that is BULLSHIT. In real life dating you first get the attention of the woman with your physical attraction. Once the physical attraction takes place, you will then have the chance to display your personality. You can be sure that the fat, unclean looking guy with the gorgeous woman on his arm, has plenty of big
time cash in his pocket. There are exceptions, but in in genera generall this this is how how it works works.. The point is, that anyone can improve their outward appearance. It's a matter of recognizing the importance of doing so. If you get in shape, and maintain a clean, healthy look you are more than three quarters of the way there.
MAKING HER FEEL SPECIAL Poets would have us believe that love cannot be explained. However, I really think that we can take a common sense look at what attracts and what repels. Women will want to be near men that make them feel needed and loved. Be friendly, caring, and loving. This should not be such a difficult task considering the payoff. Think of all the men out there who act like assholes, and you will immediately see how a guy like you will soon have more girlfriends than there are hours in the day, if you keep the above in mind. Acceptance and appreciation play a big part in showing a woman that you really care about her. Value and respect her. Women need men in their life in order to feel happy and complete. We need women in our lives for the same reason. Thus, it makes perfect sense for us to do everything in our power to attract a beautiful female to be our life-long companion. A lot of the things that we need to do to attract women are hard. That's life. Life is not always easy. The simple fact is that to win at football you need to hit people. To win with women you need to beat out other men. These are the plain simple facts. Step back and take a close look at the principles that I have just discussed. You will no doubt be successful with the opposite sex once you understand and begin to apply these concepts. Money is a factor is virtually every relationship. You will need money to go out on interesting dates such as the movies, or Broadway theater. However, make sure you do not give the impression that you are a big spending rich man, even if you really are. We want to avoid the big big spender image because these type of people usually have women around them only because the women are after their money. Your goal is to get her interested in "you, the person", not in your money. Spend moderately, and show her a good time. If you don't.) other guys will.
THE IMPORTANCE OF FINANCIAL FINANCIAL SECURITY Financial status is extremely important in building a serious relationship that will eventually lead to marriage. You do not have to be rich. However, it is extremely important that you have the means to be able to support a wife, and at least two kids. Ask yourself this question; "When was the last time that a female suburban college graduate got married to a homeless Vietnam veteran living on the streets of New York City?". Was it impossible for them to fall in love? No, of course not. The reason that they will not fall in love, is because because she she will never never give give this man, man, or or anyone anyone like him, the chance to win her heart. You have to create your own chances. You can do this by studying, or learning a trade that will reward you with a good job. Always remember that it's never too late to make things happen. It is my firm belief that having an understanding of cold realities such as these will make your search for a beautiful woman a successful one. It is the most important piece of insight that I have to offer you.
APPROACHING HER There she is. You see a beautiful woman, and you would like to get to know her. You could be at a nightclub, or outside during your lunch hour. There are plenty of pretty women around. However, this one comes out of nowhere, and really captures your attention. What do you do? I am sure that in the past you have probably let most opportunities such as this one just slip away. You see her. She captures your attention. However, you do nothing about it. She walks out of your life, and you never see her again. Well, that is not going to happen this time!! You will
approach her this time, and start up a conversation. The first step will be to get in the right frame of mind. This is the single most important thing in picking up pretty women. You must truly believe that you are worthy of her. You deserve a beautiful woman to be your companion. Your attempt will be half-hearted and doomed to failure, if you do not feel worthy of having the beautiful woman that you are about to approach. The real secret to scoring with women is simply having the guts to go over and start up a conversation. Always keep in mind that you have nothing to lose, and everything to gain. You go up to her and say "HI". It's that simple. Sure there's more to say. However, this is the essence of what you must do.
INTERPRETING INTERP RETING HER SUBTLE S UBTLE SIGNALS TO YOUR ADVANTAGE In picking up beautiful women there are no complicated formulas involved. You simply need to keep a few fundamental things in mind. The first one is Interpreting her subtle signals to your advantage. This means getting a sense of who she is before you begin speaking with her. You observe her for a few minutes and ask yourselfWhat is her body language telling me? What do her clothes, hair, posture, mannerisms, etc. say about her? All of this information that you visually collect gives you an idea of who she is, and what she's about. It's important to go through this analyzation process due to the fact that it will make you more comfortable when you begin begin speaking speaking with with her. her. If her her manner mannerisms isms indicate to you that she's a shy person, you will then use a more delicate approach, with her, and speak on the soft side. On the other hand, if you detect that she is really an outgoing type of person, person, then then you you may may want to demonstrat demonstratee a more lively side of yourself. In either case, keep away from shit like "Hey babe, how ya doing?" and "Wanna have some fun?" You don't ever want to use any lines like that. After you say "HI", you can introduce yourself and mention that she caught your attention, and you just had
to come over and at least find out if she's single. It's critical to have a relaxed, friendly, and easygoing way about yourself. Never be hasty. Don't ever seem desperate.
THE IMPORTANCE OF HUMOR Women love to laugh, so you can always use a bit of hum humor or to your your advan advantage tage.. This This is a great great ice breaker. It is one of the best ways of beginn beginning ing a conver conversati sation on with with a woman. woman. You You can start off by saying, "I just heard a funny story ... may I tell it to you?" You will be shocked at the number of times that she will say "Sure, why not". She will love to hear it. Your job is to make sure that you have a funny antidote to relate to her. You can look at comedy tapes or joke joke books books to to come come up up with with someth something ing that that is especia lly charming. charming. Many times off the cuff comments work much better better than than well well thoug thought ht out out pick pick up up lines, lines, or or jokes. jokes. You You need need to to judge judge the situa situation tion,, and determine what is best for you to use.
BEING YOURSELF YOURSEL F Let her see the real you. This is important to remember. A lot of times it is very difficult for men to be relaxed when they approach a woman. This is mainly due to the fact that we are often too busy trying to be someone that we are not. I mentioned earlier that we need to put ourselves in a better light than we're actually in, and that we could do this by slight exaggeration. This is fine if carried out in a correct discreet manner. Otherwise, you will come off as a faker and liar. You will be most relaxed when you display your most true ideal self.
GETTING TO KNOW HER In conversation tell her about yourself Tell her
where you went to school, and what your hobbies are. You can talk about music, movies, and books. You want to show her that you are a well rounded person who takes part in a variety of activities. It will be during this conversation that you will gather up as much information as possibl possiblee about about what what she like likess to do. do. You You will will ask ask her about her hobbies, and her other interests. Then you just sit back, and listen closely, and carefully. This is where "Adapting your personality" will come into play. You will indicate to her that you have great interest in some of the things she has just just told told you you she she enjo enjoys. ys. You will will show show inter interest est in these things even if you currently are not really interested in them. Once you really get to know the things she likes, and you do them with her, there is a good chance that you will also begin to genuinely like doing them. The important thing to remember in the beginning is that you must be open minded. Having an open mind is extremely important in developing a common ground between between you and and a woman. woman. Up to this point you have accomplished a couple of very significant things. First of all, by the very act of approaching her, you have separated yourself from the pack. She realizes this was not easy for you to do. Most men shy away. A lot of men are afraid that women will think they are idiots for approaching them. In fact, just the opposite is true. She will love being approached in such an honest, and straight forward manner. Even if she is not available for a date, she will still consider you a gentlemen. Why? Because you were indeed a gentlemen. That's why. The second significant thing that you have done up to this point is the development of a common ground. If you can sense that the situation is going good, then you must make a move to see her again. You can say "See you here same time tomorrow", or, if the both of you really hit it off
you can ask her out on a date. The date that you ask her out on will involve an activity that she has told you she enjoys. This is why you must carefully listen to what she has told you before.
AVOID APPEARING APPEARING DESPERATE As I have mentioned a couple of times before, it is extremely important that you do not appear desperate. Do not look like you can't wait to get her panties down. I REPEAT do not look like you can't wait to get her panties down. I know you can't wait, and you know you can't wait. The point point is that that you you don't don't want want to to give give her the impression that you're horny, and all you're after is a one night stand.
THE IMPORTANCE OF GOOD GROOMING Grooming is extremely important. Always be clean and well dressed. If you want some good ideas as far as dressing is concerned, you can always pick up a men's fashion magazine and see what appeals to you. It's smart to take notice of such things. It's also a good idea to wear some cologne. Women love the manly scent of a good cologne. Don't lay it on too thick. Put on just enough to get her interested in what you have to say.
TAKE YOUR TIME-KEEP TIME-KEEP IT IT SIMPLE You will learn a great deal from your experience every time that you approach a woman. You can more fully develop your skills by critiquing your own performance. What went well? What mistakes did I make? I can tell you one big mistake most men make, they are in too much of a rush. They try to get a woman into the sack an hour after they meet her. You will not make this mistake. You need to be patient.
A lot of beautiful women feel that men approach them because them because they they are only only interested interested in in gett getting ing laid. You have to demonstrate that you are interested in her for herself as a person, in her activities, and that you are just not using her for sex. Your tone of voice should be calm and confident. The expression on your face is relaxed. You are giving her complete complete attention attention as she speaks to you. This type of setting, and mind set, will allow you to concentrate on other aspects of the dating game besides sex. You listen, and if necessary adapt your personality to her interests (preferably the one's that really do appeal to you). If you concentrate on perfecting this part of the game, you will see that the sex will come naturally. I'm sure that you have heard the term "paralysis by analys analysis". is". It It refers refers to someon someonee not being being able to get something done because they have analyzed it to death. Their mind has made the specific task much more complicated than it really is. As a result, every time the task is attempted, the person is intimidated, and thus, failure is inevitable. You have to keep things simple. This is the sure road to success. I could harp on a specific point for nine pages, but what good would that do anyone. Always keep in mind that you will have the most success with women by sticki sticking ng to the basic basics. s. Girls Girls want want to to have have fun, fun, and you are going to give it to them. As long as you keep this simple fact in mind, you ,will always be one step ahead of everyone.
DEALING WITH WI TH SHYNESS Let's get back to that woman that caught your attention. You already know that there is no magical formula in getting to know her. You simply go up to her with a smile on your face, and say hello. If you're shy then you must try to force yourself. Remember, you have nothing to lose. You may never again get the chance to talk to this particular woman. You can begin with a simple gesture such as offering her a magazine you have just finished reading. This can help you
get the foot in the door. The beauty of it is that you don't even have to talk. You can just smile. I can tell you that a little kindness can go a long way. The real scoop on shyness is that the way to beat it is by facing it. You face it by forcing yourself to go up to a woman,, and do what we have talked about throughout this book. In general, the approach by a shy man will not differ very much from the approach used by all other men. Once you give it a try you will see that everything will go fine. You will then wonder why you ever thought approaching a woman was such a problem in the first place. You can of course all but guarantee your chances of success by showing her you have two tickets to a big show, and putting one of the tickets in her hand. She will love the fact that you thought so highly of her. Remember, shyness will only prevent you from meeting women if you let it. Don't let it.
GET OUT THERE-BE AGGRESSIVE AGGRESSI VE You will only go out on a limited amount of dates if you are always waiting for formal introductions from friends and relatives. You need to go out and meet women on your own. Take the initiative. Be aggressive. aggressive. The first step is just getting out there and doing it. I have found it helpful to have a few stories in mind that you can tell a woman in your initial meeting. It's a good idea to commit a couple of interesting stories to memory. These stories will prove invaluable in the event that you are at a point in the conversation where both parties have nothing to say. Men are always concerned with this proble problem. m. Comm Committi itting ng a goo good d story story or two two to to memory is an excellent way to avoid that dreaded deadly silence. You need to understand that she may be as nervous as you are. She may not know what to say. Thus, your story may be a lifesaver.
As I mentioned earlier on, you must also make sure that you always flatter a woman. Women love compliments, so provide them with plenty. Don't be ridiculous about it, though. You must make sure that there is some truth to your compliments. Avoid exaggerations. You should always concern yourself with being interested, rather than with being interesting. Everyone is so worried about being interesting that they forget to demonstrate that they are also interested in the person they are dealing with. You must learn to demonstrate genuine interest in the things that she says. Most people are only concerned with themselves. Therefore, the fact that you show an interest in what she has to say will make you special in her eyes.
SELLING YOURSELF You don't have to be smart, handsome, or rich to meet beautiful women. However, it won't help you much if you are dumb, ugly, and poor. The point point that that I'm trying trying to to make make is that that you you must must make a good first impression. You will want to communicate your good qualities by following the pattern pattern noted noted above. above. Your Your action actionss will demonstrate that you are a good person, exciting, smart, and romantic. You are exactly what she is looking for. You will not be able to demonstrate all your qualities in 10 minutes. However, you can give an overview of your general features that will leave her curious, and wanting to see more. You will be comfortable speaking with her, because you you are a gentleman. gentleman. You make make eye contact as you speak, and you demonstrate a sense of confidence. You are anything but boring. boring. It's easy to convey convey a sense sense of excitement, and enthusiasm about life once you realize that this is central to your success with women. Each situation will be a bit different. However, as long as you use these concepts, and incorporate your own unique style, you will notice that you will have more success with women than you thought was ever possible.
BEING THE BEST B EST IN I N BED SEX. You care about it, and so does she. The key here is to put her needs ahead of your own. There is no single advise that will be more valuable to you in the area of sexual relations. The biggest mistake that men make is that they get into bed with a woman, and only care about satisfying their own sexual needs. The beauty of being being willin willing g to satis satisfy fy her her sexua sexuall needs needs is that that she will always come back for more. The guys who just mount a woman,) and blast away until they shoot their load into her belly are both foolish and reckless. You will separate yourself from other men by taking your time. Remember the fact that it takes a woman longer to reach orgasm than it does for a man. Many times a man has climaxed, and considers the love-making over, while the woman is just heating up. Think slow. I would advise you to take more time in foreplay. Massage her back, her legs, her breast. Keep kissing her. All during this phase you are taking your time. She is slowly bein being g bro broug ught ht to the the boil boilin ing g poi point nt.. You You will will fin find d that her panties are soaking s oaking wet. You will now pull pull off her panties panties and go go down down on her. her. Women Women love to have oral sex performed on them. She will go crazy with excitement. She will love it. A lot of men do not like to go down on a woman. Thus, if you are willing to go down on her, you will make a very good sexual impression on her. She will see you as an excellent lover. She will be glad glad that that she decide decided d to open open her legs for for you. you. It is very important to remember that when you go down on a woman you should stay down there for awhile. Don't just do it for two minutes and expect her to be satisfied. You should stay there for at least fifteen minutes. The secret of success in this area is to really get into it. You need to spread her lips and suck her dry. I hope you don't mind it when she comes all over your face. At this point you will be in complete sexual control of her. Another no nonsense way of making yourself a better better love loverr is to develo develop p the habit habit of figuri figuring ng out out
exactly how your lover most enjoys the way you make love to her. Sometimes women will be reluctant in voicing their sexual preferences. Therefore, you need to be aware of how she reacts to the things you do to her. You will get a good idea of her preferences by the way she moans, and also by the way she uses her hands. The secret is to make sure that you do not overlook these subtle signals. The ideal situation would be to establish a relationship where you can get her to tell you exactly the way she likes things done. This however takes patience on your part. In the beginning of your sexual relationship take notice of her reactions. It is through these signals where you will learn what most excites her. You can think of it as a trial and error process. You will have a lot of fun during your experiments. You will also provide her with more orgasms than she has ever experienced before. You can be sure that this will make you pretty special in her eyes. You just follow these simple concepts, and dive in for the time of your life.
AFTER THE L0VE-MAKING L 0VE-MAKING You are now done with the best love-making session she has ever had. You have completely blown blown her her mind mind.. Both Both of of you you are are lying lying on the the bed bed exhausted. Sometimes a woman will feel sad at this point because the realization sets in that the great sexual feeling cannot last forever. It's a psycho psycholog logica icall thing thing that that quit quitee a numbe numberr of females experience. It is at this time that you might consider taking her in your arms and letting her know how special she is to you. You might even suggest that she spend the next weekend with you in a place such as Miami. That's right, I'm dead serious. Of course it does not need to be as extravagant extravagant as that, that, but you can can offer her something special. The reason for this line of thinking thinking is twofold-One, twofold-One, you are instantly injecting a lot of excitement that will lift her spirits sky high. The second reason is that you will be instantly separating yourself from most men, since as soon as the sex act is over men
will usually turn over on their side and go to sleep. I think that it's a great idea to surprise her with instant weekend getaways. She will always have fond memories of you that will last her a lifetime. You will make her feel like the most special girl in the world. Remember that you have probably wasted money on countless things that were not as meaningful as a special weekend together with this beautiful woman. Some very exciting things that you may do with her include things such as horseback riding, snowmobiling, or camping. In addition give her flowers, chocolates, or take her to a good restaurant where they serve her favorite food. food. You will instantly show her your romantic side with actions such as these. You will separate yourself from other men by doing these things during any day of the year, not just on special occasions such as birthdays. You want to bring excitement excitement into her life. You crush the gates of her dull life, and be her hero. I guarantee you that her friends will start telling her how lucky she is to know you. All her friends will envy her.
COMMITMENT AND EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT You have already attracted her to you at this poin pointt in time time.. Thus, Thus, you you will will now now beg begin in the the emotional attachment phase. This phase involves comfort and security. It is extremely important for you to realize whether or not you actually want to be in a committed emotional relationship. If you are not ready for a commitment, you should be an adult about it and tell her up-front that you are not interested at this time in a relationship that requires a serious commitment. Never Never forget, forget, honesty honesty is the the best best policy. policy. If you decide that you are ready for a serious commitment you should avoid being very possess possessive. ive. You shou should ld also also avoid avoid bein being g the extremely jealous type. You should always let your woman know that you trust her.
It was the roman poet who said "to be loved, be lovable". In my opinion that sentence contains the complete secret of love. It is the key to your success. The essence of what you need to do to attract women. You treat them kindly, with a lot of tenderness and respect. You take your time with them in bed. You do great, exciting things for them. In short you love them.
PLACES TO MEET M EET WOMEN WO MEN You can meet women all over the place. At community affairs meetings, churches, museums, elevators, clubs, parks, and even on the street. You can be creative and put yourself in a positio position n where where you you are are the the only only man man among among many women. You can join art classes, or cooking seminars. I know that these are common sense ideas, but I also realize that many men overlook these obvious situations. You will have the women competing for your attention in situations such as this. Give it a try and see what I mean. I can tell you that it has worked well for me. I do my laundry each week at a laundromat that's filled with women, each one waiting their turn to talk to the "nice single guy who's so poli polite te". ". If you play your cards right you can be scoring like crazy at places like the supermarket while all the other guys you know are striking out every night at the discos. It's something to think about and try. The principals contained here will work for you anywhere, and that's just my point. Use these techniques all over the place. Many times a woman will try to pick you up in the oddest of places, and you won't even realize it. You will think she is just being nice, and you will lose an opportunity for an exciting evening. While you wait for the bus, she might make a statement to you about the weather conditions in an effort to strike up a conversation with you. She will at the same time, be trying to size you up. Most of the time you will think nothing of it because because the the particu particular lar circum circumstan stances ces will will fool fool you. You should always be prepared to respond
to a woman's small talk. Never just let it go by with a simple "yeah, the weather's been good lately", and then walk away. She could have been very very easi easily ly tryin trying g to pick pick you up. You kno know w how crafty women can be. Keep that conversation going. A dead give away that a woman is interested in you will be when you notice that she is really listening to your every word as you speak to her.
ESSENTIAL ESSENTI AL PERSONAL PERSONA L TRAITS If you care about the topic of meeting women as much as I think you do, then the following traits are essential. You should work on fully developing these traits: 1 ) Self-esteem 2) Positiveness 3) Compassion 4) Enthusiasm 5) Honesty 6) Responsibility In my conversations with women these are the traits that most often come up. Another interesting thing that I learned while speaking with women is that they don't like it when a man tells them about all of his flaws and weaknesses. These type of conversations will scare women away. Thus, Keep your flaws and weaknesses to yourself. I was always under the impression that sharing all of your problems with a woman was a way to show her that you are opening up to her. It is fine to share some of your concerns. However, if you go overboard and tell them too much of your problems they begin begin to to view view you you as as a probl problem em wait waiting ing to happen. Only after you know a woman at least a year should you fully open up to her.
PLAYING THE GAME Always remember that you will be successful successful with beautiful women because you want to be. You have the mind-set. The material which I have provided to you should be fully absorbed. You will then use it in your own way, and make things happen. You have to realize that half the battle battle is is just just getting getting out ther theree and playin playing g the game. If you stay home every night, I can assure you that you will never meet women. Get up and get going. You only live once, so get out there and start enjoying life. You will meet and date as many women as you decide to. If a woman is not interested, that is fine. You have nothing to be ashamed ashamed of. of. Just say say good bye bye and move move on. on. It's that simple. You should not be nasty because that will just sour your attitude. Let the competition walk around with a chip on their shoulder. You will set yourself apart. You are a gentlemen. You will make women feel special because because you have have the commo common n sense to realize realize that they truly are special. If you use the information in my book, along with what you already already know, know, you are sure su re to have an unbeatable combination. You can't possibly lose. Women will begin to notice you because you are different. You are a winner.
Always remember everyone loves winners. Good luck!!
